Divorce is a time of chaos and confusion with every decision having high stakes for the impact it will have on your future. Do you always make smart decisions when you are in a heightened emotional state? Probably not. That is why it makes sense to find a way to set your emotions aside if you can. Do your due diligence and inform yourself about your financial position so that you can make smart decisions and not feel at the mercy of the process. Here are some tips that will help guide you in the process of preparing for divorce:
- Making an emotional decision about the family home. Just because you have primary custody of the children does not mean that you must keep the family home. Be realistic about your income and expenses and how much it will cost to maintain the house and your standard of living on your own.
- Failing to be reasonable during negotiations. Sometimes when people are hurt emotionally they try to inflict the same pain on their partner. Digging in their heels and refusing to meet in the middle is one way that they might feel powerful when they really feel defeated. Being reasonable and being willing to negotiate in good faith is the best way to resolve the divorce in a win-win.
- Taking legal advice from unqualified sources. Your cousin Doug just survived a messy divorce, and he sat you down and gave you advice that turned out to be not that great. Yes, Doug meant well, but if you had done what he recommended you might have run into some real trouble. Your divorce attorney is your best source for advice about your divorce.
- Underestimating your expenses. Failing to get an accurate view of your current and future expenses can lead to unfortunate decisions in your divorce.
- Disparaging your ex in front of the children. Your ex is your children’s other parent, so the negative, potentially hurtful things you say about your ex can hurt your child’s feelings, too. Refusing to speak ill of your ex in the presence and earshot of the children also sets a good example of civil behavior that you might hope they would follow one day.
- Failing to communicate openly with your children about the divorce. If you think you are hiding anything from your children think again. Children need to hear that everything is going to be OK – different, but OK. They need to be assured and re-assured that the divorce is not their fault and they need to be able to ask questions and get the answers and support they need even when they are putting up a brave front.
- Failing to hire the right lawyer to represent you. Hiring the right lawyer is the key to getting the best guidance and walking away with the best results possible in your divorce. An experienced Franklin divorce attorney from the Law Offices Adrian H. Altshuler & Associates will make sure that you avoid costly mistakes, and make smart decisions for your future.
With so many highly charged, emotional interactions, it can be so easy to make avoidable mistakes in a Tennessee divorce. When you have the guidance and support of an experienced, Franklin divorce attorney from the Law Offices Adrian H. Altshuler & Associates on your side, you can be assured that we will protect your interests. You are encouraged to contact us or call 615-412-1121 to schedule a consultation at our Franklin, Columbia or Brentwood office today.