There will come a time when divorce gets real for you and things might be a bit more challenging than you had bargained for. Divorce can be adversarial and it will bring out aspects of your spouse’s character that you may not have seen before. When you agree to divorce and you set off on that path, there will be many things that will be difficult for you to accept including the following:
- There are no winners in divorce.
Although you might begin the process with the intention of exacting revenge or coming out the winner, you will quickly see that neither of you will necessarily win. Your attorney can make sure that you get as favorable a settlement as possible, you will get some of what you want and you will lose out on some others, but in the end it will likely still feel a bit hollow.
- Your life will change more than you think it will.
Even if you initiated the divorce, you will not be prepared for how much your life will change after the divorce is final. Aside from the fact that you will probably have to move, your daily routines will change, and you may feel lonelier than you thought you would. But, you can use those feelings to motivate you to create the kind of life you actually want, now that you have a fresh start.
- There will be unresolved issues between you.
Getting a divorce puts an end to your relationship and to your life as a couple. You may have been working towards things together and you may have been working through some challenging things, but now that is over and you may feel a bit unsatisfied about that. Talking to a counselor or a psychologist might help you find some closure so that you can move on and be happy rather than dwelling in the past.
- You are losing the good along with the undesirable aspects of your spouse.
Unless your marriage was a daily horror show, there will be aspects of your married life that you will miss. You may no longer attend family gatherings with your spouse’s family, and those relationships you formed with your partner’s family may become strained or even come to an end. The fun times that you shared, and the way you made each other’s lives easier will also end.
- You will compromise more than you thought you would.
If you have children with your soon-to-be-former spouse, you will learn the gentle art of compromise. You will learn that it can be better to give a little than to endure a stalemate. You will discover how willing you are to make sacrifices in order to protect your children’s interests. And you will quickly see that compromising now can mean an investment in a more civil relationship with your ex in the days to come.
There are many hard truths about divorce, but the good news is that you do not have to face it alone. An experienced Franklin divorce attorney from the Law Offices of Adrian H. Altshuler & Associates will be there to represent your interests and to make sure that you get as favorable a settlement as possible. We will make sure that you are prepared to take on your new life and the challenges it will bring.
Go into the divorce process with your eyes wide open to what really happens. When you work with one of our experienced Franklin divorce attorneys from the Law Offices of Adrian H. Altshuler & Associates, you will have an advocate who will fight for your rights and keep you informed at every step in the process. You are welcome to contact us at 615-977-9370 to schedule a consultation at our Franklin, Columbia or Brentwood office today.